Obedience Isn’t the Goal. Emotional Safety Is....If you were praised for being a “good kid” because you stayed quiet, followed the rules, and didn’t rock the boat, read this twice. A child who obeys out of fear isn’t thriving. They’re surviving. What looks like compliance is often a child who’s shrinking inside, afraid to be fully seen or heard. I don’t help parents raise obedient kids. I help them raise empowered, emotionally safe humans who know their voice matters and their truth is welcome.